Love Speaks

Love Speaks

Around the world many people speak of Love. It is often described as a sense within. For some it’s a warm fuzzy feeling in their tummies or heart. For others it is a knowing. An awareness that expresses something that is indescribable. Popular author, Gary Chapman explains how love speaks through, “The Five Love Languages” The languages are;

1. Words of Affirmation. People relate to words. They are a part of everyday life. A simple “hello” expresses we took time to notice the other person. Many like to say and hear “I love you” and for others positive compliments proclaim love for another. Studies show that relationships are more successful with a ration of 5:1. Five positive compliments or words of affirmations for every one negative. Listen for clues from your expressions to know what your loved ones primary love language.

2. Quality Time. When in relation with others, life can easily get in the way. People crave undivided attention. If they are not getting the support they need negative behavior is displayed and unfortunately negative gets our attention quicker than positive. Our children are prime examples of this. Wanting our attention at times when we are preparing our lives. Stop and take a moment to spend quality time with loved ones, we tell them with our actions, “I love you, and spending time with you is important to me”.

3. Receiving Gifts. For some, giving gifts is another way of saying “I love you” Giving and receiving is a powerful expression of affection that can last a long time. The most meaningful gifts become symbols of love, and those that truly convey love are a part of a vocabulary. When we give, we show our loved ones we took the time to think about them and that they matter. To truly speak this style we must be genuine in our act of kindness.

4. Acts of Service. Often people say an act of service is their primary love speech. The simplest act can be the most rewarding, like holding the door open for someone, helping someone pick up things they dropped or giving a friend a ride. When doing for others we create an environment that is of unity and show that we care by acting selfless instead of selfish.

5. Physical Touch. Physical touch will communicate love more deeply than the words “I love you” or giving a present, fixing something, or spending quality time. We receive love from all the languages, but for many the clearest and loudest one is physical touch. Without hugs, kisses, pats on the back and other physical expressions of adoration, our love tank will remain less than full. Human development requires intimacy. If you use physical touch as an expression of anger and aggressiveness you will hurt the other very deeply, especially is your loved ones primary love language is touch.


Sharing and expressing love is important to everyone. Whether your love language is words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, or physical touch, we must be genuine with our intentions. Taking the time to learn each other’s dialect is the greatest act of love for all.

Rev. Danielle Ohlund, Master Life Coach and Hypnotherapist 480-331-0191